Him: I don’t date black women. It’s just a preference.
Me: Based on what?
Him: Nothing, it’s just how I feel.
Me: Impossible, deliberate aversions come from somewhere.
Him: Its just a preference, that’s all.
Me: No, a preference is preferring broccoli to asparagus. You can say that because asparagus will always taste the same, even when prepared differently.
Me: And we’re not always the same at all. There are hundreds of millions of us and we’re each completely different from the next. If an employer said not hiring Black people was a preference would you agree?
Him: No, but that’s based on stereotypes.
Me: … And what is yours based on, facts? —
- discussion with a classmate earlier.
Love who you want, I don’t care, but please don’t disguise legitimate issues with a relationship.
(Source: thatlupa, via strugglingtobeheard)
So, this essay is from Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape. Found on pages 67-76. TRIGGER WARNING for Rape, Rape Apologism, Victim Blaming, and Fat Shaming.
Anyway, this essay really resonated with me. I had to type it all out right away. It is pretty long, but definitely worth a read if you have the time. I’ll be posting a processing post in a bit. Basically I’m going to be live-blogging this book and the incredible things I’m finding in it. I love it.
FUCK YES! all of this!
the goal is to get friends like this
team Not Fucking Around