Him: I don’t date black women. It’s just a preference.
Me: Based on what?
Him: Nothing, it’s just how I feel.
Me: Impossible, deliberate aversions come from somewhere.
Him: Its just a preference, that’s all.
Me: No, a preference is preferring broccoli to asparagus. You can say that because asparagus will always taste the same, even when prepared differently.
Me: And we’re not always the same at all. There are hundreds of millions of us and we’re each completely different from the next. If an employer said not hiring Black people was a preference would you agree?
Him: No, but that’s based on stereotypes.
Me: … And what is yours based on, facts?
- discussion with a classmate earlier.
Love who you want, I don’t care, but please don’t disguise legitimate issues with a relationship.
So, this essay is from Yes Means Yes! Visions of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape. Found on pages 67-76. TRIGGER WARNING for Rape, Rape Apologism, Victim Blaming, and Fat Shaming.
Anyway, this essay really resonated with me. I had to type it all out right away. It is pretty long, but definitely worth a read if you have the time. I’ll be posting a processing post in a bit. Basically I’m going to be live-blogging this book and the incredible things I’m finding in it. I love it.
So as some of you know, after 3-ish years of PhD-level academia-induced misery and alienation, I decided to leave my graduate program and am now attempting to make a living doing things I actually enjoy doing – namely: writing,…
The social, political, and economic arrangements of a society can place some people in a privileged position relative to others, particularly with respect to important goods, like institutional representation, economic resources, and even less tangible goods like…
The social, political, and economic arrangements of a society can place some people in a privileged position relative to others, particularly with respect to important goods, like institutional representation, economic resources, and even less tangible goods like “respect”…
“South Africans have erupted in song, dance and tears in public and emotional celebrations of the life of Nelson Mandela, the anti-apartheid leader who bridged the country’s black-white divide and helped avert a race war.”—
Bullshit and fuck you, race war was not averted, white people waged all-out race war against Black people in Africa for centuries using every manner of weaponry and technology and violence and cruelty at their disposal, from the first Boers and Brits of the Dutch East India Company to Dr. Livingstone and Henry Stanley, from King Leopold to the white supremacist National Party of apartheid fame who admitted that they were working in laboratories on biological weapons which would only kill Black people.
It’s a race war, waged by white people, every day that the world is shaped the way it is under white supremacism. White people only call it a “race war” if Black people fight back to defend themselves. Therefore, in the distorted white lens, the greatest thing Mandela did is persuade Black people not to fight back too hard, that’s what white people are celebrating about him, practically sighing with relief, whew they didn’t form death squads and kill us all. They completely twist the point of his life and legacy.
Truth and Reconciliation doesn’t mean, now we’re okay with whiteness after all. It means, Black people and people of color are on the move, handling what’s happened and what’s happening, but moving on and leaving whiteness in the rear view mirror because there are bigger mountains to climb.
“I always get asked, ‘Where do you get your confidence?’ I think people are well meaning, but it’s pretty insulting. Because what it means to me is, ‘You, Mindy Kaling, have all the trappings of a very marginalized person. You’re not skinny, you’re not white, you’re a woman. Why on earth would you feel like you’re worth anything?”—Mindy Kaling (via iwouldnttradethemoon)
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“I am tired, not of arguing in favour of equality, diversity and tolerance, but of having to explain, over and over and over again, why such arguments are still necessary, only to have my evidence casually dismissed by someone too oblivious to realise that their dismissal of the problem is itself a textbook example of the fucking problem. I am tired of being mocked by hypocrites who think that a single lazy counterexample is sufficient to debunk the fifteen detailed examples they demanded I produce before they’d even accept my point as a hypothetical, let alone valid, argument. I am tired of assholes who think that playing Devil’s Advocate about an issue alien to their experience but of deep personal significance to their interlocutor makes them both intellectually superior and more rationally objective on the specious basis that being dispassionate is the same as being right (because if they can stay calm while savagely kicking your open wound, then clearly, you have no excuse for screaming).”—
“While Ms. McKenna “did not ‘abduct’ the child,” the court said, “her appropriation of the child while in utero was irresponsible, reprehensible.”—
Sara McKenna, a former Marine, became pregnant during a brief relationship with Bode Miller, an Olympic skier. While seven months pregnant, she moved from California to New York to go to school, leading a judge to scold her for “virtually absconding with her fetus.” Now, the fight for custody of their son has become “a closely watched legal battle over the rights of pregnant women to travel and make life choices.” (via bebinn)
“People want to believe gender is something that’s essential, and people repeat these essentialist ideas all the time. “Oh, women do that” and “Oh, men do that” and the reality is that all women don’t anything. We as individuals do what we do, you know, and sometimes that’s informed by gender and sometimes it’s just who we are. And I think all that just makes people really, really uncomfortable because they don’t want to think about who they are.”—Laverne Cox (via lucrezialoveshercesare)